Ok, I'll put it another way;
The two brands of shock absorbers that you mentioned in your post, Boge and Monroe,are what I would consider to be budget brands.
They both work perfectly ok
But
In my opinion, Top quality brands such as Bilstien or Osravs will give you much better compression and rebound damping.
That means they will work well with your standard springs to improve the ride quality, without altering the "softness" of the suspension (that you wish to retain).
4. As I'm looking for standard softness suspension, are there any other pattern or alternative shocks available? I know of the Monroe ones.
Any help, as always, much appreciated.
Your point 4 made me think that you were under the impression that an uprated shock would automatically mean a stiffer ride.
And your last line made me think you would appreciate any help.
Just shows how wrong I can be.