Thanks Stan but that appears to be some standard factory alarm as it doesn't have a 12 pin connector.
I've found the following installation notes for the Meta M96 alarm I have and might be able to work something out from them.
Installation Guide for Fiat range. On the Meta there are two block connectors, one large and one small. I see two of the wires from the Fiat connector going to the small one (6 pin). Then two wires coming out of same 6 pin connector that go to ground (they are not black wires). I'm guessing that these are the negative style door lock relays.
Should be easy to test and the guide above talks about 12 way connectors so I might be able to figure it out. I'll write it up in a FAQ once I know.
John